Aftermath Radio: Stages of the Aftermath

Paul Babiak, Ph.D. Vice President, Board of Directors, Aftermath: Surviving Psychopathy Foundation

Dr. Paul Babiak, Industrial and Organizational Psychologist and author of the book, Snakes in Suits: When Psychopaths Go to Work, discusses the stages that victims go through in the aftermath of relationships with psychopathic individuals.

In our increasingly-popular “Aftermath Radio Q and A” segment, we answered questions from caller Jane in the UK about jails versus prisons, and noncriminal psychopaths (Dr. Schug discussed Truman Capote as a possible example, based on information presented in Ellsworth Lapham Fersch’s book of case studies in psychopathy). We also spoke again with a survivor named Sally, who discussed the various stages of her own aftermath.

According to Dr. Babiak, the victim’s relationship with the psychopath progresses through the following stages:

Stage 1: Temptation

Stage 2: Psychopathic Bonding

Stage 3: Collusion in the Psychopath’s Game

Stage 4: Self-Doubt and Denial

Stage 5: Abusive Manipulation

Once in the Aftermath, the victim will experience these stages:

Stage 6: Realization

Stage 7: Shame

Stage 8: Anger and Vindication

Stage 9: Release, Repair, and Re-growth