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Aftermath Radio: 10 Signs That You’re Dating a Sociopath

Donna Andersen, author and founder of Lovefraud.com

10 Signs that you’re dating a sociopath

By Donna Andersen

We all want to be loved, don’t we?

Well, no. There are people in the world who don’t care about love. They don’t even know what love is. But they do care about power, control and sex.

These people are called sociopaths (or psychopaths.) The media would have us believe that all sociopaths are deranged serial killers. This isn’t true. Sociopaths know exactly what they are doing, and most of them never kill anyone. But they are social predators, who exploit just about everyone they meet. They have no heart, no conscience and no remorse.

Unfortunately, I learned about sociopaths the hard way—by marrying one. My ex-husband took a quarter-million dollars from me, cheated with at least six women during our two-and-a-half-year relationship, fathered a child with one of them, and then, 10 days after I left him, married the mother of the child. It was the second time he committed bigamy.

Because of my experience, I launched Lovefraud.com, a website that teaches people to recognize and recover from sociopaths. More than 2,300 people have told me their stories of being involved with sociopaths, and it turns out that they all operate from the same playbook. If your new romantic interest exhibits the behaviors that I discuss in this radio program, be careful. One or two traits don’t mean much, but if you see most or all of them, he or she might be a sociopath.

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